Before talking about what happened in school with their children, parents can know the activities of their children's school or the courses they are studying in advance. I sorted out why children don't talk about kindergarten. Please refer to it for reference.
Why don't children talk about kindergarten
Only children of five-year-old development level have complete narrative ability
It is a kind of narrative ability for children to tell their parents what happened in school (kindergarten). It requires certain development premise and basic ability to make requirements for children's narrative ability.
Generally speaking, children around the age of three have insufficient language expression ability. If they want to describe the situation in the kindergarten, they may say some piecemeal fragments, which may not have clear causes and consequences.
Generally, children with development can only be able to say the time, person, place and events that have happened around the age of five, and fully describe the events, including explaining the causes of the events, everyone's actions and the results of the events. Therefore, it is unnecessary to be overly ahead of schedule.
Special attention: Children's mastery of the concepts of time and causality is the basis for the development of narrative ability.
Talk to your children about school
What should I choose to start with?
At the beginning, you can start with the characters and things, such as whether you know the teachers who get along with each other day and night in the kindergarten, whether you are better with any students, talk about the food provided in the school, and what items you like in the classroom, such as decorations, toys, books and so on.
Then transition to talking about events, what you shared with your good friends, interesting things that happened in school and so on.
How to choose the right time?
Because children's memory is relatively short, the more we talk about what happened in school with young children, the more we should strike while the iron is hot. For example, when we pick up children from school, we can start talking with them about their life in school when they are still in the school environment or on the way after school.
If the child has the ability to recall, it will be easier to recall what happened before seeing the corresponding characters in the corresponding place. We can also take photos, such as taking photos on the way to school in the morning and picking up the child in the afternoon.
Then after a period of time, let the children recall the situation through these photos as a medium; Or take a picture with your classmates, take some photos around the campus, and ask your children to think about what happened with these classmates in these places.
Before talking about what happened in school with their children, parents can know the activities of their children's school or the courses they are studying in advance, understand the relationship between students, know well, and guide their children's conversation with a targeted goal, which will get better results.
We can understand all aspects through the following ways
1. The most direct way is to keep communication with teachers, ask teachers about their children's school situation and understand the current learning content.
2. Then we can also learn about all kinds of new events happening in children's school through the information on the school and class bulletin board (daily recipes, course plans, activity silhouettes, manual exercise display, etc.) or home school links, class wechat groups and other platforms.
3. We can also check the children's schoolbag every day. For example, we can find that there are more or less toys or books in it. We can ask the children what happened. For example, older children have some notes on their textbooks, which can also be used to understand the children's schoolwork.
4. In addition, we can also maintain a good relationship with the parents of other students. Through them, we can know whether the relationship between their children and their own children is good and whether there have been some events in school.
But sometimes parents really can't verify all the things that happen to their children in school. When the children describe the things that happen in school, parents can also help make some reasonable reasoning, help the children recall through conjecture and increase their interest.
But remember not to confuse imagination with facts. We can use the sentence pattern "let me guess if it's..." and "sometimes, the teacher may......"
So what is the way to know the baby's situation in kindergarten?
1. Communicate directly with the teacher.
In general, the teacher will truthfully tell the parents what happens to the baby in the kindergarten, especially when the baby is unhappy, so it is important to communicate with the teacher often. When wennuan was in kindergarten, I would often ask the teacher about her recent situation and performance, and the teacher would be happy to tell the parents.
2. The mother's question is very important and specific, so that the baby can understand and recall.
For example, you can ask your baby, "did you sleep in kindergarten today?" "Do you pee in the morning or in the afternoon?" "Did you drink water, one or two?" "What did you eat tonight, porridge or rice?" "Have you eaten vegetables? Have you eaten meat?" "Have you been praised by the teacher when playing games?" "Did you get little Safflower in class?" "Are there any children crying?" "Did you cry?" Wait for questions. The smaller the mother asks, the more detailed the baby answers.
3. Role playing games.
If you want to know the baby's performance in kindergarten classes and the teacher's attitude towards the baby, you can play role-playing games. When a baby's mother told us to play a game in kindergarten. The baby will imitate the teacher's class in kindergarten in a natural state, from which we can learn about the class situation of some teachers and whether the child is subjected to corporal punishment, etc.
4. Observe the child's state.
If you really can't ask from the baby, she's in kindergarten today. Then watch the baby's state at night to see if the baby can eat, play with toys, read picture books, listen to stories, sleep and so on. If the baby is normal, then everything in the kindergarten is normal.
5. Ask other parents about your baby.
Some children will tell their parents about their situation in kindergarten, and other students may be mentioned in the middle, such as who got little safflower today, who was naughty, who played well in the game and so on. So chatting with other baby's parents can also get some information about the child.