Today's children, because of the doting of their families, have developed their biggest temperament, which is the child's character psychology. Here are the reasons for my children's conceit. I hope I can help you.
I. why are children conceited
Conceit comes from improper evaluation. For teenagers and children, their self-evaluation first depends on the views of the people around them, and the family is the first reference system for their self-evaluation. If parents dote on their children and always praise their children's advantages, turn a blind eye to their shortcomings and avoid talking about them, they will feel that they are "quite great". After entering school, once being labeled as a good student by the teacher, it will further strengthen their ego.
Secondly, it is related to plain sailing in life. People's understanding comes from experience. People who have suffered many setbacks and blows in production rarely have the psychology of conceit, while if life is smooth, it is easy to develop the character of conceit. Most of today's children are only children, and only children generally have superior family conditions. If they also perform well in school, they can always be affirmed and their goals can always be achieved. Such a favorable situation will make them have the illusion of no self, no fear, so they are blindly confident and arrogant.
In addition, the emergence of conceit is due to one-sided understanding of oneself. Because teenagers' self reflection and self observation are affected by their own level of understanding, teenagers' understanding of themselves has different degrees of deviation. One of the extreme cases is that some children only see their own advantages, but not their own shortcomings. They overestimate their own ability and underestimate the ability of others. Success is attributed to one's subjective efforts, while failure is entirely due to the uncooperative objective conditions, excessive narcissism and egocentrism, and sees one's actions differently.
At the same time, the emergence of conceit comes from emotional bias. Some people's self-esteem is particularly strong. In interpersonal communication, in order to protect self-esteem, there are often two opposite and interlinked self-protection psychology. One is inferiority complex, which avoids further damage to self-esteem by isolating from others; The other is self conceit, which compensates for the lack of inferiority through self amplification.
Finally, the emergence of conceit is also related to teenagers' self expectation. In adolescence, it is easy to separate the ideal self from the real self. Under the same level of achievement, the higher the self expectation, the lower the self satisfaction. On the contrary, the lower the self expectation, the easier it is to meet. Therefore, it is not difficult to understand that children without lofty goals, even if they make a little progress, are very likely to be proud, complacent and have a sense of conceit.
Second, how to help children overcome conceit
Of course, like everything else has both sides, conceit also has its positive side. For people, we can't live without a little conceit, especially for teenagers. Within an appropriate range, conceit can stimulate their fighting spirit, establish their confidence in winning, and strengthen their belief in overcoming difficulties, so that they can move forward bravely. However, conceit must be based on objective reality. Conceit divorced from reality can not help people achieve their career, but affect their own life, study, work and interpersonal communication, and seriously affect their mental health. So we need to overcome the negative impact of conceit.
To help children overcome this bad habit, we must first help children improve their self-awareness, tell children that they must not be blinded by a leaf and not see the forest, and have a comprehensive understanding of themselves. We should not only find our strengths and advantages, but also see our shortcomings and shortcomings. Secondly, we need to be grateful to others for their own shortcomings, and learn to constantly recognize and improve our own shortcomings, and only need to be grateful to others for their own shortcomings.
Everyone has his own limitations. Only by recognizing his limitations can he do things according to his ability and achieve success. If a person is too conceited and thinks he can do everything, he will only deceive himself and others and eventually leave a laughing stock for others.