The performance of social fear belongs to an extreme lack of self-confidence, fear and avoidance of some external objective things or situations. Even though it is known that these reactions are abnormal, they are difficult to control. The following is a collection of reasons I collected for you. Let's have a look!
Have you ever had such a situation?
In public places, dare not chat with people, afraid to attract the attention of the surrounding people. I dare not express my ideas in the company for fear of being laughed at. In a strange place, there is no sense of security and dare not bother others. When we need to speak, we can't say a word because of tension, anxiety and worry. I don't like going to crowded occasions alone. Do not like to take the initiative to communicate with people, afraid to contact new things. I'm afraid to attend the classmate party because I don't know what to say.
These are some manifestations of social fear, which belongs to an extreme lack of self-confidence, fear and avoidance of some objective things or situations in the outside world. Even though it is known that these reactions are abnormal, they are difficult to control.
Why is social self distrust
Many times, our social self-confidence comes from the blow we have suffered in reality. Our methods were rejected again and again, our opinions were ignored, and our attempts were interrupted again and again. At this time, our cognition will have problems, and we won't dare to try again. Many social fears come from childhood. Childhood is a stage of a person's rapid physical and mental development. If he is always criticized and denied in the growth environment of childhood, the child will become inferior and self-confident.
Or have suffered psychological trauma. For example, being bullied, abused, often beaten, scolded and scolded, which will have a great shadow on people's psychology. In serious cases, it will lead to fear of other things and dare not touch external things.
Social impact of fear
The impact of social fear on our work makes us afraid to talk confidently in front of our leaders and participate in the company's collective activities, resulting in not being recognized by our colleagues and bosses. In front of customers, I don't know what to talk about, so I lose customers.
The impact of social fear on life, there is no social circle in life, there is no sense of existence in the crowd, and it is not understood by others.
The impact of social fear on yourself. Long term social fear will lead to anxiety, anxiety, and even other emotions such as depression and world weariness.
How can I socialize with confidence
Some people may think that forcing themselves to take maternity leave a few times can improve their social life, but if this is the case, they may fall into a more fearful situation because of social frustration.
To build self-confidence and socialize, we need to change our thoughts, actions and emotions.
Most of the time, social fear comes from our fear. Therefore, in terms of ideas, we need to make positive self suggestion, stay away from negative thoughts, don't always think that this should be better, and don't put too much pressure on ourselves.
In terms of behavior, we should turn avoidance into initiative. If it's hard for you to go to some activities, don't think it's too uncomfortable. Just go. You need to play like everyone else until the end of the event.
Emotionally, when we feel nervous, uneasy and afraid, we can ignore these emotions. When the tension is not noticed and strengthened, the tension reaction will gradually subside with the passage of time.
If the social fear is very serious, you still need to see a psychologist to reduce and eliminate the symptoms of social fear through psychological counseling and intervention.