Most women think that in love, men should take the initiative. Whether it's contact or dating, men should mention it. But many men don't like to contact their girlfriends actively, but it's not because they don't love you. Even if they don't contact you actively, don't think about it. There are many reasons why they don't contact you. Mastering these points will let you understand why your boyfriend doesn't contact you actively every minute.
First, boys are not good at expression
The boy's expression ability is poor. Many words are the same in his mind, but speaking out is another meaning. For example, he wants you to go to dinner. What he thinks is: go to dinner, baby. I'll be distressed if I don't eat. But when you say it, it becomes: go to dinner. This makes people sound uncomfortable, so he doesn't want you to misunderstand his meaning, so he won't take the initiative to contact you, but he will sincerely wait for you to contact him. He doesn't want you to think he is a person who can only say "are you there, have you eaten?" A boring person who wants to show you his best, so don't blame him for not contacting you actively.
Second, he feels that taking the initiative all the time will make you don't cherish him
If every time a boy takes the initiative to contact you, he will feel that you don't care about him, you don't miss him, and you don't want to talk to him, which will make his initiative very tired. Over time, in order to let you see his grievance or hard work, he will reduce the number of active contacts with you. When you take the initiative to contact him, he will feel that you care about him, cherish him, and he is not dispensable to you. In this way, It can make him have enough sense of security and make him more aware of your love for him.
My friend min'er fell in love with a very shy boy in their class. Her daughter is naturally a cheerful and lively girl, and many people like her. But she is stubborn and has to get the person she likes. The boy she likes is Joe. Joe is introverted, so there are not many people in contact with him except his roommate. Sometimes he always goes to the canteen to eat alone. At this time, min'er will specially sit next to him and eat with him.
At first, Joe always kept away. Later, he was probably used to it. Over time, the two were together. But min'er always complains to me recently that as long as he doesn't go to Aqiao, he never takes the initiative to chat with himself. Such feelings made me feel very tired. Later, the two said it and naturally made up again. The reason is that ah Qiao feels that he is not worthy of min'er, so he is always afraid to separate from her. He looks forward to each other's initiative to express his love like a little girl.
Third, boys are really busy!
Everyone has something that everyone has to do. The boy doesn't take the initiative to contact you. Maybe it's just because he's busy with other things. He doesn't have time to chat with you. He has his own work and mission. He has to work hard to earn money to give you material enjoyment. Boys and children are under great pressure, while girls just need to think about trivial things such as how to dress up and what to eat for lunch every day, A boy has a heavy burden on his shoulders. He doesn't have time to chat with you all day, so he won't contact you because he's busy with business.