The significance of learning is not only to achieve the improvement of the so-called quality of life, but also to give people more unexpected possibilities. The process of learning may be painful, but choosing to take the initiative to accept the pain in learning will make a difference even if the pain in life is still there. The following is a complete collection of reasons I sorted out for you. Let's have a look!
Why would you rather suffer from life than study?
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A reader left a message saying that a few years ago, she worked as a foreign trade worker in an electronic component factory and often dealt with assembly line workers in the factory.
Most of them are very young, some just over 18 years old. They stand in front of the assembly line and do the same work every day, from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m.
When asked "why do you come out to work at the age when you should go to school", except that some people are poor and need to supplement their families out of frustration, most people's answer is: it's too painful to go to school, so it's not as easy as working to make money.
Under a question from Zhihu, one of the two friends of the topic owner gave up the sales job of about 6000 and went to work as a waiter with a monthly income of about 2000 because he was unwilling to recite a 20 page manual; The other would rather play games with dirty words and game terms flying all over the sky than go to the library to enrich his life.
He wondered, "why do most people prefer to suffer from life rather than study?"
The answer to this question is both helpless and reflective.
- 01 - the pain of life paralyzes people, and the pain of learning sobers people
In most cases, people suffer from life passively.
No matter whether you work hard or resist, although the pain of life will change, the pain you must deal with will make people become "habits" over time.
After being paralyzed, I know that such suffering will come. Just wait and deal with it.
The pain of learning is that people have to force themselves to open up new areas of pain. On the basis that the pain of life will come as promised, this seems to be adding weight to the pain.
I would rather get used to the pain day after day than be awakened by the pain. It is the inertia of people who want to stay in the "comfort zone".
The first psychological background is the low ability to delay satisfaction.
This is the ability to "be willing to give up the choice orientation of immediate satisfaction for more valuable long-term results".
In the 1960s, Walter Mischel, a psychology professor at Stanford University, designed an experiment with ten children in kindergarten.
Ten children each stayed alone in a small room with cookies, candy and marshmallows on a tray on the table.
Researchers say they have several options:
1. Eat snacks immediately; 2. Wait until the researchers come back, so you can get another marshmallow as a reward; 3. The children could ring the bell on the table, and the researchers would return as soon as they heard the bell.
As a result, most children choose to give up after less than three minutes; Some children ate the candy without even ringing the bell, while others stared at the marshmallow on the table and rang the bell half a minute later.
Only about a third of the children succeeded in delaying their desire for marshmallow. After 15 minutes, they waited until the researchers came back and received a cash reward.
Being eager to eat sugar is like being immersed in life without making progress - people with low ability to delay gratification are more willing to be satisfied with immediate benefits.
Although the present life is difficult, even if the salary is only two or three thousand, it is also a visible benefit; Learning is like a reward that you need to wait 15 minutes to get. You need to pay the cost of time, and the benefits are also future benefits. Although you can meet them, you can't get them immediately.
The lack of "expected decision-making thinking" makes people only look at the immediate benefits and ignore the great value hidden behind the current pain.
The second is the adaptive psychology of compromising on "low allocation".
In the growth experience, the information that can be perceived or inadvertently contacted virtually affects how people think at present, how to reflect on previous experiences, and how to control the future.
Some experimenters threw fleas into the jar. They jumped more than 100 times their height.
But if a glass cover is used to cover the fleas, they can only jump below the height of the glass cover. Three days later, even if the lid was opened, no fleas jumped out.
American psychologist Seligman put forward the concept of "learned helplessness" in 1967.
He kept a dog in a cage. As soon as the bell rang, there was an electric current under the dog's feet, and he couldn't escape the pain.
After many times of the same test, the bell rings. Even if the cage door is opened before the current is turned on, the dog will choose to fall to the ground and moan. Even if it can take the initiative to escape, it will also choose to wait for the pain to come.
Most people avoid the pain of learning because they have encountered setbacks in learning, so they suggest that they have no talent in this regard.
In later life, when you meet the place that needs to learn again, the first reaction of past experience is to follow the biological instinct of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages and abandon learning.
Like a flea confined by a glass cover and a dog who only remembers the pain of electric shock, even if there is no obstacle, there is still a barrier in his heart that he can't overcome.
The thinking mode of attribution is wrong, which limits one's potential possibility to a great extent.
- 02 - having to suffer from life objectively limits the conditions for learning
We have to admit the existence of a more realistic problem: it is more and more difficult to change our destiny through learning, so many people choose not to suffer from learning.
Under the pressure of quality education, the investment in extracurricular education has also become the capital of competitiveness. Families who have the ability to obtain higher quality educational resources will only have less hardship in a good cycle.
In the same time, people with conditions can use resources to improve themselves, while people with relatively scarce resources have spent all their time dealing with the hardships of life.
In order to explore the truth of poverty, American writer Barbara Allen Rick lived in anonymity and experienced how low-income earners lived.
She went to different cities and changed six jobs, including retail, cleaning and elderly services. Finally, she found herself in a dilemma:
Because I have no money, I have to live in a remote place → spend a lot of time on the way to work → there are fewer and fewer opportunities to improve my study time and find a better job → want to do more part-time jobs to cope with the cost of life → become a work machine, have a psychological breakdown and choose to give up
Eating the bitterness of life exhausts time, money and energy, and deprives people of the opportunity to eat the bitterness of learning.
The deeper this situation is, the more people will find problems from the environment rather than themselves.
The bitterness of life is also divided into quality. There are some difficulties that make people look for problems from themselves and choose to use the way of thinking of reflection; Others force people to find reasons from the environment, fall into possible threats, and can't reflect from the perspective of jumping off.
People often blame the suffering of life on the impact of the environment, which is gradually incomprehensible. The significance of learning is not only to improve life.
The instrumental value brought by reading is limited but intuitive, and most people who can't bear the pain of learning can't see the improvement it brings to people's higher-level significance of existence.
- 03 - even if it's hard, learning is the best way to change
To a great extent, learning makes people have no choice to eat more.
Someone asked a question in Zhihu: suppose there are 100 people in the room. They play games with the initial capital of 100 yuan from the age of 18. Each round, each person takes out one yuan to another person at random and plays until the age of 65. What will be the distribution of wealth of the last 100 people?
After the game runs 17000 times, the distribution proportion of social wealth is: Top 10% of the rich hold about 30% of the wealth, top 20% of the rich hold about 50% of the wealth, and 60% of the wealth has shrunk to less than 100 yuan.
This result validates the "28 law" from the side: 80% of wealth is in the hands of 20% of people.
So, will a hard-working life be better?
Suppose that 10 of these players work harder than others and gain a 1% competitive advantage, that is, the probability of winning revenue is 1% higher than others.
The simulation result of the game is that 9 of the 10 hard-working players have entered the top 20 of the rich.
Ten years ago, Anhui examinee Xu MENGNAN handed in a blank paper in the college entrance examination room for "0 points", and then did the work of assembling advertising boxes, manufacturing well covers, packaging sanitary products and production instructions.
During this period, he got married, had children and divorced. After a series of changes, on March 25, 2017, he re entered the college entrance examination room and was admitted by a college.
"I just live in an environment and in a state for too long, so I want to go to school, experience some different things and live a different life. I don't like wandering around in a module, which makes me very painful."
Xu MENGNAN, who said these words, is not in a tight life. Sometimes his monthly income can reach tens of thousands, and the quality of life is not too poor.
The mediocrity and fragility of life will make people tired. The most effective weapon to change is learning.
A 93 year old Shanghai grandfather was photographed talking to foreigners. His pronunciation was standard and his mouth was clear. Facing the camera, he said, "stops learning is old, keeps learning stars young." (stop learning makes people old, and keep learning can keep youth forever)
How many people, before it's their turn to grow old, have cut off their way to improve themselves because of their heart of premature aging.
The significance of learning is not only to achieve the improvement of the so-called quality of life, but also to give people more unexpected possibilities.
The process of learning may be painful, but choosing to take the initiative to accept the pain in learning will make a difference even if the pain in life is still there.